Be Icy

Hello readers my name is Icy E IV, a guest contributor to the Mormon Dating Guru blog.  I am a long-time friend of Dr NCMO Love Master Jay and the rest of the Gurus. Our advice is unique, and I find the most successful way, to date 21^st Century Mormon women. We aren't little puppy-dog RM's who got home from our missions two months ago, bumbling around trying to get engaged by the end of the week. We have all been in "the game" for years: specifically in the Mormon community.

I graduated from BYU and know all about the exceedingly peculiar dating scene there. I now attend a university in the United States where the Mormon dating scene is very different from that in Utah. After having been a member of nearly a dozen singles wards I know all about the social dynamics of dating in one.

Today I want to talk about being "icy." What does it mean to be icy? Being icy means that you can stay cool regardless of what kind of crazy stuff may be happening around you. There are two main scenarios when it is paramount to remain icy: when approaching, and when being tested by chicks.

APPROACHING. When a man approaches a woman it is natural for him to be nervous. All you 21 year old guys may think you’re experts at picking up women because you spent two years talking to strangers, but approaching women is different because your ego gets invested in the situation—trust me. Don't be a pushover who gets hurt when he is rejected. Although it’s easier said than done you need to remove your fear of rejection. Before you approach, realize that “YOU ARE THE MAN” and if a woman rejects you it's only because she doesn't know how awesome you are yet! Don't get butt hurt, there are hundreds of thousands of ladies that want to get scooped up by you. When you are icy, and don't care what the outcome will be, you will have major success. You gotta be icy.

BEING TESTED. When you're in a relationship, your gf will want to get to know you by experiencing a range of emotions. She will naturally test you, and one way that she will do this is by acting entirely out of character (such as freaking out at you) to see how you respond. Don't be alarmed, this is all inherent in all females. Be icy. Don't try to talk her through the situation. Any input WHATSOEVER will only affect the situation negatively. After she has gone on her rampage, just say in a cool tone "are you done?" You've demonstrated that you can be icy and put up with her crap. Women love to jabber and they just need to get all their emotions out. By being icy and simply listening to what she has to say she'll calm down and want you worse than ever. Be authentic about it too. If you really engage in listening to what is on her mind she will love you even more.

Being icy means that you are a self-actualized individual and that you don’t need approval from anyone else. This is the most attractive personality. And you can learn to be icy. Too many people seeks relationships as a source of approval. Love yourself first and everyone else will love you too. Yes, I'll say that again, love yourself first and everyone else will love you too. 

A good example of being icy is shown in the clip below. Arnold Schwarzenegger gets hit by an egg but he continues on his path like nothing happened. When a woman is testing you, brush off the crap thrown at you and continue on like nothing happened. She'll see the strength of your character right before her eyes and want you badly.

Icy E IV