Be Icy

Hello readers my name is Icy E IV, a guest contributor to the Mormon Dating Guru blog.  I am a long-time friend of Dr NCMO Love Master Jay and the rest of the Gurus. Our advice is unique, and I find the most successful way, to date 21^st Century Mormon women. We aren't little puppy-dog RM's who got home from our missions two months ago, bumbling around trying to get engaged by the end of the week. We have all been in "the game" for years: specifically in the Mormon community.

I graduated from BYU and know all about the exceedingly peculiar dating scene there. I now attend a university in the United States where the Mormon dating scene is very different from that in Utah. After having been a member of nearly a dozen singles wards I know all about the social dynamics of dating in one.

Today I want to talk about being "icy." What does it mean to be icy? Being icy means that you can stay cool regardless of what kind of crazy stuff may be happening around you. There are two main scenarios when it is paramount to remain icy: when approaching, and when being tested by chicks.

APPROACHING. When a man approaches a woman it is natural for him to be nervous. All you 21 year old guys may think you’re experts at picking up women because you spent two years talking to strangers, but approaching women is different because your ego gets invested in the situation—trust me. Don't be a pushover who gets hurt when he is rejected. Although it’s easier said than done you need to remove your fear of rejection. Before you approach, realize that “YOU ARE THE MAN” and if a woman rejects you it's only because she doesn't know how awesome you are yet! Don't get butt hurt, there are hundreds of thousands of ladies that want to get scooped up by you. When you are icy, and don't care what the outcome will be, you will have major success. You gotta be icy.

BEING TESTED. When you're in a relationship, your gf will want to get to know you by experiencing a range of emotions. She will naturally test you, and one way that she will do this is by acting entirely out of character (such as freaking out at you) to see how you respond. Don't be alarmed, this is all inherent in all females. Be icy. Don't try to talk her through the situation. Any input WHATSOEVER will only affect the situation negatively. After she has gone on her rampage, just say in a cool tone "are you done?" You've demonstrated that you can be icy and put up with her crap. Women love to jabber and they just need to get all their emotions out. By being icy and simply listening to what she has to say she'll calm down and want you worse than ever. Be authentic about it too. If you really engage in listening to what is on her mind she will love you even more.

Being icy means that you are a self-actualized individual and that you don’t need approval from anyone else. This is the most attractive personality. And you can learn to be icy. Too many people seeks relationships as a source of approval. Love yourself first and everyone else will love you too. Yes, I'll say that again, love yourself first and everyone else will love you too. 

A good example of being icy is shown in the clip below. Arnold Schwarzenegger gets hit by an egg but he continues on his path like nothing happened. When a woman is testing you, brush off the crap thrown at you and continue on like nothing happened. She'll see the strength of your character right before her eyes and want you badly.

Icy E IV 

Victory is Imminent

Victory 

What is victory? I recently had a buddy of mine date 3 women simultaneously...... for two months, with all the women knowing about the others. However because of a blow up, and the loss of all 3 of his women he views the experience as a loss!!!! 

Now i'm not condoning dating three women at the same time (nor do I condemn it). However Jim just pulled off a feat most mormon males couldn't dream of in their wildest middle of the mission wet dream! So as college starts up its important that we start to appreciate the small victories..... and take credit. I recently had a co-worker of mine complain to me about him not being seen as management material (when he obviously is). I told him he needs to start taking credit for his accomplishments. 

Taking credit for YOUR Accomplishments!

Here are some easy scenarios of things that might happen and your reactions. They are sorted into 3 district categories. 

1. Pussy 
2. Mr Mormon friend zone 
3. Brigham's Boy (the man didn't have that many wives, children, and make the federal government send out an army because of fear of his manliness because he was a pansy.) 

When you approach that girl, and get blown off

• Pussy- Mope around your apartment and talk about how all women in this church are "biatches". Somehow twist it into how if you were only 6 foot instead of 5 foot 8 everything will be alright. Also blame all NCAA athletes especially athletes, because by some miracle they are seeing every single women at your college. 
• Mr Friend Zone- Oh she must be having a really bad day. Make her cookies and come over with your mutual friend. Then try to talk to her about her past "FEELINGS" and "Past relationships." 
• Brigham's Boy- Smile and walk it off. Congratulate yourself on approaching a smoking hottie. Be happy that you didn't end up getting into a relationship with such a rude, bitter, vain woman. Make a goal to approach two more women the next day. 

When you ask out the girl in the ward you have a crush on, and get told she's dating someone in the ward.

• Pussy- Sulk in your room. Apologize 5 times for hitting on her. Then make it very clear that you only consider her a friend. Not notice that she has tuned you out and is now walking away. 
• Mr Friend Zone- Make plans to become friends with her boyfriend, and the girl. Then drive a wedge between both of them with lies and trickery..... then watch her leave for another man not you. 
• Brigham's Boy- Walk away, look for another girl. 

Most of all................. ASSUME YOU WILL WIN! and................. YOU WILL! 

always always assume success. 

Dr NCMO Love Master Jay. 

Tinder Advice Part 2A

I'll be honest. I just got 6 yes six bonafide hotties to go out with me on tinder. I am super pleased with the list. I'll break down the list. And once I select one of these girls to date (If I do at all). I will post pictures of these girls with a black stripe over their eyes to maintain anonymity.

My six women and how I got them on Tinder. 

Each woman I used a different strategy. I'll break down all 6 below. 

1.) Former Utes Cheerleader. (Who is an absolute doll.) 

I used the "Wow what freak thing brought awesome people like you and me to use this dating app." This is a strategy you can't use if your ugly. (sorry man if your pushing 300 pounds no woman will believe that you have a plethora of women..... especially if they meet you on a online dating app.) 

• Use an opener of your in shock a classy, good-looking, sexy girl like herself is on the dating app. Possible openers can be "Wow you seem far to nice and adorable to be on this app! Whats the story behind you using this? Bet you have to beat the boys off with a stick!" 

• To make this work well you have to have screening wording in your profile description. stuff like "I only date blondes." or "I'm just on here for fun highly unlikely I'll go out with anyone on here just doing this for kicks." or "No crazies please!" This wording implies that you already have women hitting on you and you are indeed "screening" women and searching for a "High quality woman". 
• I talked with the cheerleader. During which we both talked about how people are so over the top when trying to get a date. How it was hard to find quality people. Then i just simply said "you seem really fun and super chill lets go to a baseball game next week. (You can insert any event here.) SHe said she would love to.... and "That SOUNDS SO FUN!" 

 2.) Make an Offer they can't refuse. 

• I landed a Grade a hottie whose family owns an up and coming chain of restraints here in the state of utah. Despite that fact this girl watches her diet and lets just say the female sex pack...... AMAZING!! (the type of girl you literally are tempted to date just to show off to your friends.) 
• On my initial approach I just went for the basic commonality approach. We both had liked the the Utah Jazz. I promptly asked her if she was just one of the fair weather "kyle korver" Female utah jazz fans. Then I placed a what she thought about the jazz stacking picks. Turned out she is a giant Utah Jazz fan. 

• Make the offer- Don't make it to unbelievable, but make it awesome. I promptly told her that I had Utah Jazz Pre Season court side seats and asked if she wanted to come. (this of course was a bold faced lie I have no such tickets.) However thats weeks away. So instead we went and got an ice cream (don't worry males her bod is still fine.) that ice cream cost me 50 cents (indeed we went to burger king.) The point is the "offer they can't refuse" opened the door, and her mind to hanging out with you..... Basically your in. 

3.) Appeal to Vanity- Every girl wants to be told she's pretty. Not "Hey babe your ass is a 9 out of 10" instead go with "wow you have such an awesome tan! What beach did you get that on? 

• I complemented a girls eyes. "Are your eyes on your picture photo shopped? Cause they sam to good to be true!" She replied back her thanks and that they are indeed hers. At which point i told her that they are gorgeous and melted me a little inside. After that it was like finding something green in the rainforest. Success was imminent. 

• Make sure to look for things you truly think are attractive. Features that most people overlook, style, fashion, and their tastes in music. People want to be popular, want to be complimented, feel unique. DOnt impress her let HER tell YOU about HERSELF! The more she tells YOU about HER the more SHE WILL LIKE YOU!!! 

I will break down the other 3 women. I have to go off to chill with my brother. (Bro's before Ho's) 

this man could use some advice from ME. 

Me= Dr. NCMO Love Master Jay 

happy hunting my friends!