People love people who love themselves. No this does not mean you think "I, and I alone am the greatest man in the universe! NOOOOO!!!!!!! watch the below clip and we will continue
TREAT YO SELF! It baffles my mind that guys will take a woman out to eat chinese food, yet never take themselves out to eat. I want you to take yourself out on a date. Many of you are RM's fresh off the mission and having some quality alone time with yourself is a priority. Plus think of it logically
"If i can have a good time hanging out with myself.................I must think hanging out with myself is fun.
If I'm fun............... then others must want to hang out with me................... If others want to hang out with me more people will be around me............according to my calculations 50% of all "people" are females. SOOOO by more "people" hanging out with you your chances of interacting with more females rises by 50%!!!!
Many of you are laughing at this. However if you start loving yourself, and are passionate about who you are people are going to sense it. The next clip demonstrates that is you say something, and believe in something then other people will see it. Mr Haderford from Parks and Rec should be labeled a loon, or eccentric......and perhaps thats true. HOWEVER! He believes that what he is doing is awesome and it makes me think its awesome. Watch how him being ridiculous is hilarious and interesting. There is a deep confidence that he has behind what he is saying.
Now Mr. Haderford does not have the best approaches towards women. I will say this all the women know that he is indeed hitting on them. So your homework for today is this.
HW #1 TREAT YO SELF- to a dinner a walk a sandwich a man date i do not care. Go out all by yourself and have fun. Find ten things you like about yourself and compliment yourself.
HW#2 Think about what your passionate about. I don't care if its world of warcraft as long as you love it and you are passionate about it. Now go out and discuss that topic with someone. You will find that most people will pay attention and see that you really care about that topic. you will notice people are interested in people who are interesting. I once had a shop teacher that was obsessed with collecting pencils. PENCILS! but honestly every kid in that class looked for rare pencils after that and started buying higher quality pencils because my shop teacher was....... PASSIONATE ABOUT IT! People love people who love things. NOT HATERS! So go out and discuss your passion with someone!
I have been taking ALOT of heat from women for my last post on "dumping female friends". I standby what I said. However i want to tell you guys a story of what happened to me last night. I was making out with a girl in my vehicle, and also quizzing her down on her male friends. here is how the conversation went. BOLD = her
regular=me
"So how many guy friends do you have?"
"Ummmm Like five."
"Do any of those guys like you?"
"Yeah like all of them"
"So if you wanted to you could makeup with any of those guys?"
"Yes"
"Wow so you just use them to hang out when your bored or what?"
"Like when I'm bored or wanna go out and have fun, or need help with homework or my car"
"So you would never makeup with any of them?"
"Umm maybe if i was sad and just broke up with someone."
"Would you still hang out with them if you had a serious boyfriend? Would you be jealous if they were hanging out with other girls?"
"Duh! And i wouldn't hang out with them anymore if i had a serious boyfriend."
I then asked her if we could ever be friends? She said yes, "friends with benefits". So i will clarify if you have a "friend with benefits" by all means keep her. But if you like your female friend and she don't like you? Disapear out of her life for awhile, go date other girls. If you still like her after a few months then call her up, and make your intentions very clear that you like her.
Well guys i have a really hot blonde making eye contact with me in the computer lab so I'm gonna jet PEACE!
P.s Homework for today. I want you to cut your hair lift some weights drink some grape juice. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself......and confident. Then I want you to walk around town thinking how cool you are. However DO NOT walk around thinking "I'm cool and these people are losers". You think Harrison Ford walks up and down a street thinking to himself "I am so much cooler than that guy, I am so much richer than that guy" NO NO NO! Basically i want you to put yourself in a state where you feel good. Walk around and notice the difference.
p.s.s If your female and reading this................. don't be bitter and angry and write hate comments. A player is someone who lies, when i pick up women i do not lie.
Let's face it female friends suck........... either you like them, or them you. But lets face it someone is always using you. Here is a list of acceptable uses of female friends. (note because of the rapid marriage rate of LDS females, your "friend" will be married and gone soon anyway.
Study partner for college class (only if you need her help, and she is better at the subject than you.) Don't let her use you as a free tutor and an emotional tampon for her failed relationships.
Relatives, cousins aunts sisters. Honestly develop these friendships over any other female friendships. Plus prospective girl friends will see your great relationships and think "wow this guy is dope". This is far better than her seeing you around a lot of girls that all deem you as "just a friend".
girlfriends/wives of a mutual friend. But note this is almost a half friendship if your roommate and his gf are constantly at your apartment you should prob be somewhat of a friend to them.
Exes that you no longer want to date, but are fine with the possibility of a FWB (friends with benefits situation.)
Co workers (note do not let her take advantage of you).
Yep that's about it. So right now i want you to disapear from all your female "friends" lives. You will start to see a few dramatic things happen.
Your old "friends" will start to wonder what your up to. They will call and start chasing you.
Women will start viewing you as "That guy who likes me" or "That guy who doesn't like me" instead of. "Oh he is such a good friend!"
You will start to have more self respect.
You will stop wasting your time and money hanging out with women who just want to use you. Why should you be spending your time hanging with someone else's GF/Wife
You will save yourself all the frustration of "I don't know if she likes me" and or "It's a complicated situation.
Now how do you stay out of friend zone with girls. It's simple, if you like a girl let them know that your interested in them sexually/romantically (don't let sexual be deemed a dirty word, kissing hugging cuddling can all be deemed sexual, everyone makes babies with their spouse lets not be babies about terms here). Notice how I didn't say "let them know you like them" NO NO NO "let them know your attracted and you wont settle for anything less." Plus lets be honest how many guys are stuck HIDING THERE TRUE FEELINGS in order to keep "her friendship". When you hide your true feelings you end up lying to that person, suppressing things you want to say, and being a fake person WHO DOES NOT PURSUE OR CHASE WHAT HE WANTS! you essentially are bending to that woman's will. You are being a pansy. Lets stop being a pansy.
Homework/What you should have gotten out of this post.
What you got out of it.
There is no reason to have female "friends"
Stop hiding your intentions/attraction towards females.
Homework
End or significantly reduce all female friendships
Stop doing favors for your female "friends"
Don't apologize to your female "friends" for not being there for them.
Stop being the shoulder to cry on for females, especially in dating. Just say "hey i'm not your girl friend i don't wanna hear about johnny making out with your sister."
I know I said that I would teach you two methods to score "ncmo". However whilst watching star wars and spuraticly making out with a girl (mainly while luke is talking). I was inspired to tell you all about the two sides of pickup power. Much like the star wars realm there is a "light side" and a "dark side". (Don't worry I'm not going to start referencing conference talks.)
DS= dark side
LS= light side
NCMO
DS= making out with as many girls possible leading all of these women on.
Why is this bad? This is a player aproach. We wanna be Han Solo, James Bond, Harrison ford, Gregory peck style men. Do they lie to women? NO WAY! "All of those women know that those men are seeing several women at the same time. These are just "Real Men". And "Real Men" get women..............PERIOD. All women know this (but not some of these girlish whiny ho's).
LS=Making out with few to several women.........But being honest with all of these women. Informing these women mid or pre makeout that this is a one time thing/Friends with Benifits/A law of attraction because she hangs with you/You being a gracious rebound coach for her.
Why is this good?
You are being honest. Real men don't give a damn bout what people think. So why would a real man ever lie to a woman? Much like sexy is better than hot....... Man is better than "This guy".
You have a civil way to end things. Example:
Susy- "Umm Johny why don't you wanna take me out again?" John -"Susy I told you during the makeout that this was a one time thing and you agreed".
Susy- "Oh yeah"
John- "Look we can still hang out and chill, just don't be expecting to make out with me whenever you want. But if something happens it happens."
You can use that exact line on almost any girl. It communicates a few key ideas about yourself imediatly.
You are still offering your "friendship". You are also communicating that you didn't just purely use her for her body. (or maybe you did.)
You are showing her how she already agreed to this arrangement, making her the overreactive liar if she freaks out instead of you.
You put her in the "freind zone" with possibility of future affection. This shows that you indeed do not need her because you obviously don't really care because you are "in demand".
3. You have started the wheels in her head of. "Oh my gosh this guy is so confident and chill" (or "oh baby baby I need this man".)
Body Language
What's the difference between Kramer and Han Solo?
Similarities
Both male
Both have body hair.
Differences
Han- Dominant body language. He knows what he's doing and he doesn't give a damn. His movements are slow and calculated. Women would say he "screams sex".
Kramer- One word to describe his movements, jerky. Shrill crazy voice, talks rapidly is a spaz.
Han- Assumes all women want him. If they try and put him through crap and there mental games or "tests" he doesn't do that he will walk away.
Kramer- No offense Kramer but pretty sure your one of those "Russian Brides" kinda guys.
Kramer- His entire personality is funny, he is not intentionally funny.
Han- Why should Han be funny? Does he need someone else's approval? Hell no he doesn't. Is he funny? Yes he can choose to be funny. If people don't like he doesn't care.
Please watch the following video and watch for body language, tone, posture etc.
First off I must say Han Solo has a very fine tuned "Bull Shit" detector. Both of these women share two dominate traits with women in the LDS culture.
1.) They think that there princess's
2.) They both try to whip Harrison Ford/Men. Both try and manipulate Harrison Ford/Men into proving that "They are in control, and that they are the prize not you."
What did ford do in both situations? This leads me to one of the core skills in how to get women.
When you sense all this controll garbage going on I want you to think this.
"I Don't need to take this Shiz"
Then walk away. Ford ended up doing both of these lovely ladies. Hell Leah professed her undying love for him while he was about to be frozen. At which point he just replies "I know" not "I love you to" not "Really oh my gosh let me tear up right now". I also must say when the blonde closed her eyes and expected him to kiss her................. he closed the door and insulted her. (I know I know the man is a GOD!)
So I need to wrap this up but here is your first homework assignment from me.
Make eye contact with 15 women and hold until they look away.
Make eye contact with 10 women and immediately smile once you make eye contact.
Ask 2 girls for the time, and one hot girl for the time. (lets root out that misconception "she wouldn't give me the time of day")
Watch Any old school star wars/indian jones movie and study his body language. Or you can watch Tom Selleck films.
